Pondering Parenting newsletters

Every month SMFCSD’s Counselor Wellness Team will share with you stories and guidance based in the 3R’s: Routines, Relationships and Regulation, to help your family navigate the everyday puzzles that arise in supporting your learner(s). 

Combating Loneliness During COVID-19 Pandemic: Community, Empathy, and Resilience - May/June 2021

Kiro Calderon and Israel Cruz, School Counselors

COVID-19 restrictions made it difficult for individuals to interact and be supported by others outside of their immediate household. Although restrictrictions are loosening, loneliness and other difficult emotions such as anxiety, depression, and feeling overwhelmed linger for many children and adults.  English | En Español

Regulation Station: Teaching Children to Self-Soothe - April 2021

By Matt Dahlman, School Counselor

We all express our emotions and regulate ourselves in different ways, and in times of stress, we may have a more difficult time recognizing and managing our complex feelings. Your children may not be aware of all the emotions they are feeling within their own bodies and may have difficulty handling intense or difficult emotions on their own. Building opportunities to routinely practice naming emotions and self-soothing can help you and your child better prepare for whatever life brings your way.  English | En Español

Supporting the Experience of Change - March 2021

By Wini McMichael, Wellness Coordinator

In a time when “unprecedented” is commonplace, you and your children have had immeasurable opportunities to practice being flexible and adaptable this past year. As we transition to school reopening under the Hybrid Model and the related class reshuffling that will affect most students, these attributes are once again being given a workout. Students who remain at home with the same teacher may also have some challenging feelings about not going back to campus. The 3 R’s are there to provide a foundation of support for this new transition.  English | En Español

Cultivating Kindness - February 2021

By Aridai Tapia and Stephanie Ruiz, School Counselors

We are living in a time where we are feeling overwhelmed, unmotivated and uneasy. Kids are feeling it too, but might not have the words or emotional agility to express their emotions. We can cultivate kindness and compassion by making a safe space for them to process their emotions. And it is very important to model kindness and compassion by being kind and compassionate to ourselves, mindfully accepting that these uncertain times are hard and that making mistakes is a human experience.  English | En Español

Resilience Building - January 2021 

By Nancy Wallin, School Counselor and Wini McMichael, Wellness Coordinator  

Melt downs, disrespectful remarks, slammed doors, short tempers. It can be difficult to keep your cool when your child is stressed and losing control. This month, we share tips to help you tap into your own resilience as you help your child grow and develop theirs. These strategies strengthen the innate resilience we all possess and enable us to better navigate the stresses and hardships of our lives.  English | En Español


By Moriah MacDonell, Mental Health Clinician   

For many the holidays are a time to gather; a time to share, connect and find comfort in the company of those we love. Feelings of grief and loss are often amplified during this time of year due to these reasons. With all of the complexities that this time of year brings, we are faced with even more layers this year due to the pandemic. We are left asking ourselves: “How can we provide care and comfort to ourselves and our children during this holiday season?”  English | En Español 

coping skills - NOVEMBER 2020

By Christopher Wong and Jennifer Ramberg, School Counselors

Is your child losing their temper at home with distance learning? Are you losing your temper with your child? “Flipping our lids” happens for all parents and children, but for many, it is a more frequent challenge during this unusual year with distance learning combined with the stress of a global pandemic. We are here to help.  English | En Español 

Learning about Your Learner - OCTOBER 2020

By Nancy Wallin, School Counselor

Are laptop lids in your house being slammed shut? Have you noticed that your student  is more emotional - all of their feelings are on the surface? Do you feel like you have gone back to school yourself? Sounds like school life during a pandemic. We are here to help.  English | En Español


If questions, please contact the Elementary Counseling Center at (650) 312-7530 or sito@smfcsd.net